You should, because we should. Though if you don’t fancy reading it, I’ll accept listening to Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s TED Talk instead (this is, after all, a transcription). In fact, I’d almost recommend that, because she is so wonderful and funny to listen to, which doesn’t always come across reading something.
She predominantly focuses on how we need to raise our children as a society – how we need to raise them not to value the preservation of masculinity above all else, how to rank ability and interest above gender, and how to stop feeling shame for femininity or femaleness.
She discusses roles in the household and on gender expectations, specifically with an African context as it is what she knows. She’s tender but angry and most importantly, she’s right.
Everyone being feminists is not about blame or hatred: it’s about accepting that something is wrong and making concerted efforts, through accountability, to change that.